I once worked for someone whose pattern of rampant dishonesty blew my mind. Shortly after beginning work, I realized two things: Ernie absolutely could not admit that he was wrong, and he consistently lied to everyone around him – coworkers, staff, and users.
I’ve spent years assuming that I was shut out of the boys’ club. That they knew so much more than I did. That they were exposed to so much more than I was.
Recently, though, I read a wonderful post by an author that made me realize that my assumption is terribly, horribly wrong.
You’re just trying to get to a final result, but the other party doesn’t seem to have the foggiest idea how to get there. To add insult to injury, the other party doesn’t accept your way to get there. You end up stuck and frustrated.
I’m human. And humans tend to have more empathy for other humans like themselves. Over the years, I’ve found more and more biases.
For many years, I just accepted a lot of things. It’s not that I wasn’t a feminist – I just accepted how I was taught. At some point, though, I stopped just accepting things.
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